The Ultimate First Date Checklist
The Ultimate First Date Checklist
Personal Preparation
Choose an outfit that makes you feel confident and comfortable
- Ensure your outfit is appropriate for the planned activity
- Take a shower and maintain personal hygieneStyle your hair in a way that suits you
- Apply light perfume/cologne (not too overwhelming)
- Brush teeth and use mouthwashPack mints or breath fresheners
- Trim and clean nailsGet adequate rest the night before
- Eat a light meal beforehand (to avoid hunger during the date
- Research conversation topics of mutual interest
- Prepare a few interesting stories or experiences to share
- Think of open-ended questions to ask your date
- Practice active listening techniquesSet realistic expectations for the date
- Remind yourself to stay present and enjoy the experience
- Plan to be yourself rather than trying to impress
- Consider your boundaries and what you’re comfortable discussing
Logistics
- Confirm the date, time, and locationExchange phone numbers if you haven’t already
- Research the venue (menu, dress code, ambiance)Make reservations if necessary
- Plan your transportation to and from the venue
- Check the weather forecast and plan accordingly
- Charge your phone fully
- Bring sufficient cash and credit cards
- Have a backup plan in case the original venue is unavailable
- Share your date plans with a friend for safetySet up a safety check-in with a friend
During the Date
During the Date
- ArrivalArrive on time or slightly early (5-10 minutes)
- Turn phone to silent mode
- Greet your date warmly with a smileCompliment something specific about their appearance
- Suggest a comfortable seating arrangement
- Be courteous to service staf
- ConversationStart with light, positive topics
- Ask open-ended questions about their interests
- Listen actively without interrupting
- Share information about yourself when appropriate
- Maintain a balanced conversation (avoid dominating or being too quiet)
- Show genuine interest in what they’re saying
- Avoid controversial topics (politics, religion) unless mutually initiatedSteer clear of discussing ex-partners extensively
- Be honest but tactful in your responses
- Use humor appropriately
- Pay attention to verbal and non-verbal cues
Behavior
- Maintain appropriate eye contact
- Be mindful of your body language (open, engaged posture)
- Smile naturally and laugh when appropriate
- Be present (avoid checking your phone)
- Respect personal boundaries
- Be yourself rather than who you think they want you to beShow consideration (hold doors, offer jacket if they’re cold)Drink responsibly if alcohol is involved
- Be flexible if plans need to change
- Handle awkward moments with grace and humor
End of Date
- Discuss payment politely (offer to split, pay, or accept their offer)
- Thank them for their time and company
- Express your enjoyment if you had a good time
- Discuss potential future plans if interested
- End with appropriate physical contact based on comfort level
- Ensure they have safe transportation home
After the Date
Immediate Follow-up
- Send a brief message thanking them for the date (same day or next morning)
- Mention something specific you enjoyed about your time together
- Express interest in seeing them again if you felt a connection
Reflection
- Consider what went well and what you enjoyed
- Note any red flags or incompatibilities
- Think about whether you’d like to see this person again
- Reflect on what you learned about yourself during the date.
- Consider what you might do differently next time
Next Steps
- Wait a reasonable time before suggesting another date (1-3 days)If suggesting another date, propose a specific activity
- Be gracious if they decline a second dateIf you’re not interested, be honest but kind if they reach out
- Update your dating profile if using dating apps
Safety ConsiderationsBefore Meeting
- Meet in a public place for a first date
- Research your date online if you met through an appShare your date details with a trusted friend
- Set up a safety call/text during the dateHave your own transportation arranged
During the Date
- Trust your instincts if something feels wrong
- Keep your drink in sight at all times.
- Have an exit strategy if needed.
- Keep personal information limited until trust is established
- Don’t share your home address on a first date
After the Date
- Let your safety contact know you’re home safely
- Block contact if the person made you uncomfortable
- Report concerning behavior to dating platforms
- if applicableRememberA successful first date isn’t necessarily one that leads to a second date.
- Success can be measured by whether you were authentic, learned something new, and treated each other with respect.
- Every date is an opportunity for growth and connection, regardless of the outcome.